Activity Handshake
Handshake BDSM sessions with minimal disclosure
BDSMatch is a simple set-intersection tool to negotiate bdsm activities between two play partners with minimal disclosure.
It avoids the awkward "so what are you into?", "are you dom or sub?" discussions making everything more exciting and cutting away peer pressure.
We all know that nobody has fixed preferences and what you are into or not depends on the other person and the mood of the day.
Creating your session connection
Share this code with your partner:
Your partner should enter this code to join
Enter the code your partner shared with you:
Connecting to session...
Choose your preferred role for activities:
Choose a backup role if your first choice conflicts (or leave blank):
Remember that an activity will show up only if BOTH of you tick that
Selected: 0 activities
Your selections have been submitted.
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Here are the activities you both selected:
Found: 0 common activities
You didn't select any of the same activities. Try again with different choices!
Welcome to BDSMatch!
By using this application, you agree to the following terms and conditions:
Welcome to BDSMatch. Before using this application, you must read, understand, and agree to the following terms and conditions. By using this application, you signify your explicit agreement to these terms. If you do not agree, you must not use this application.
You must be at least 18 years old, or the age of legal majority in your jurisdiction, whichever is greater, to use this application. By using this app, you represent and warrant that you meet this age requirement.
This app is an anonymous utility designed to help two or more consenting adults in real-time communication compare and agree upon activities for a BDSM session. It functions by finding the common activities from lists selected by each user.
BDSM and related kink activities carry inherent and significant risks, including but not limited to: serious physical injury, psychological distress, emotional harm, and even death.
You acknowledge and voluntarily assume ALL risks associated with any activities you plan, negotiate, or engage in. You are solely responsible for your choice of partner(s), your actions, and your personal safety. This application is NOT a substitute for comprehensive partner vetting, ongoing enthusiastic consent, safewords, safety precautions, or proper education on BDSM practices.
Because the app is anonymous and does not facilitate introductions, it CANNOT and DOES NOT identify, screen, or vet its users in any way. It is a simple utility to be used by individuals who have already connected through other means. The responsibility for vetting and assessing the safety of a partner is entirely yours and must be conducted outside of this application.
This application is free and open-source software, provided on an "AS IS" and "AS AVAILABLE" basis, without warranty of any kind, express or implied.
This includes, but is not limited to, the warranties of merchantability, fitness for a particular purpose, and non-infringement. The developer(s) do not warrant that the application will be uninterrupted, secure, error-free, or that any bugs or defects will be corrected. As the app is stateless, any session data will be permanently lost when the app is closed or reset. Do not rely on this app as a sole or official record of consent or agreements.
TO THE FULLEST EXTENT PERMITTED BY APPLICABLE LAW, IN NO EVENT SHALL THE DEVELOPER(S) OR ANY CONTRIBUTORS TO BDSMatch BE LIABLE FOR ANY CLAIM, DAMAGES, OR OTHER LIABILITY, WHETHER IN AN ACTION OF CONTRACT, TORT, OR OTHERWISE, ARISING FROM, OUT OF, OR IN CONNECTION WITH THE SOFTWARE OR THE USE OR OTHER DEALINGS IN THE SOFTWARE.
This limitation of liability applies to any and all damages, including but not limited to:
Any physical, psychological, or emotional harm you or others may suffer as a result of activities planned or negotiated with the help of this app.
Any disputes or incidents that occur between you and any person(s) with whom you use this app.
Any loss of data, or damages resulting from software bugs, errors, or malfunctions.
An agreement or "handshake" reached within this app is a planning tool, not a contract or irrevocable consent. Consent must be enthusiastic, ongoing, and can be withdrawn by any party at any time before or during an activity, for any reason. This app is not a substitute for continuous, real-time verbal and non-verbal communication.
By using this application, you acknowledge that you have read, understood, and consented to be bound by these terms. You confirm that you understand the risks involved and that you are using this application at your own sole risk.
Both of you have the same role preferences and no clear resolution could be found.
You can either chicken out or, if you feel brave, let the fate determine your role by tossing a virtual coin.
Both partners must agree to proceed with the coin flip.